The Internet Monk on parenting teens….

The iMonk posted some thoughts and questions for parents on Fathers’ Day. Good stuff, as usual. He talks about the implications of the wired world, the question of your own deepest values that shape your every day life, the peril of flash-in-the-pan evangelicalism. Point 1 is about entitlement. That is probably a tough one for some FAM’s – you give your kids a lot of stuff trying to make up for what they were denied in the Assembly. Or what you were denied, if you’re an FAK (former Ass’y kid). I love how Brian S. (formerly Fullerton) does it with his kids – he wildly enjoys the stuff with his kids. Which goes a long way toward minimizing too much free time, privacy, personal spending, and exposure to the wired world (point 5).

Point 4…well, point 4 pretty much undercuts a basic Assembly assertion (at least in the early days), that the parent must be in total control of the child and is completely responsible for how the child turns out. The truth is, your child will make his own decision about who he is going to be.

Point 7 is where you have to end up: “Are you ready to let God be God and let yourself off the hook?…Do your best, then let God take over.”

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Margaret Irons and her husband Steve and three children were in the Fullerton Geftakys Assembly for twenty years. We left in March, 1990. We are still recovering and learning in Orange County, CA.

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